Not My Everything

Yes, I know I have not posted in awhile. Like I never even updated my blog on my engagement to the amazing Andrew Scott Bradford! Cah-razy.

Nevertheless, let us proceed to the reason why I am posting in my blog again. I have been reading and hearing a bunch of young girls calling their boyfriends their everything and how much they love their boyfriend and they couldn't live without them. Don't worry, my blog post is not going to be on how stupid it is for ninth graders to be talking about how much they are in love with their boyfriend that they will most likely not be with in about two months. Which, don't get me wrong, I could totally write a whole blog on how annoying that is. But, alas, that is not the main point on this blog post.

Before I go any further, I find it very important to write this: Bradford is not my everything and my life would most definitely be able to go on without him in it.

WOW! How crazy is that? I know, it's kind of an insane idea that I would be able to live my life and not die if for some reason Bradford decided that he didn't want to be with me anymore. Oh, sure, I would be completely devastated. It would take a long time and a crazy amount of tissues for me to be okay again. But let me tell you something, I would not die. My entire world would not fall apart, because he is NOT my everything. I once made a guy my everything. It did not end well for me.

Listen, girls, if we put our everything into a human being we will be left empty and wishing we were dead because they WILL fail us! I have a couple of reasons as to why this is the most unhealthy thing to do in any relationship with any normal human being.

1. What are you going to do if for some reason they are out of your life tomorrow? A week from now? A year from now? If you say you can't live without them and that they are your everything, are you just going to die? Let me tell you what is going to happen because I've been through it. You will not know who you are anymore. You will have to spend a really long time finding yourself and it will be messy, hard, unbearable, and you will wish you were dead. Does that sound like something you want to do? NO! Of course not! Dumbest question ever. You can say, "But we really love each other, he's the one!" I said that too. Also, we aren't promised tomorrow! What if something happens to them? You're just going to be left with nothing because your everything died. Morbid, but true. Come on, girls. Let's be smarter.

2. Any human other that Jesus Christ will crumble under those expectations of being someone's everything. It is not fair for them to be put under that. The weight of being someone's everything is the heaviest burden to carry. I mean, that's not love calling them your everything, that's called selfishness. End of story.

3. That spot in your life belongs to God and only God. Get it together.

Do not get me wrong, I am absolutely in love with Bradford. I do believe that God has it in His almighty plan for us to be together. But, you know what? We're actually at the age where marriage is real. Like, we're engaged. We're not in high school or middle school hoping and wishing that it could work out one day.

Also, Bradford is becoming the most important person on this earth to me, but like I said earlier... we're getting married. It's SUPPOSED to be that way. If we were just dating (or in high school for crying out loud!!!) then that would be very unhealthy for me to say or live.

He is not my everything. I fight to put God in that position every day of my life and so should you because life makes so much more sense once you do. It's why we were created. It's how life was meant to be lived. The end.